Take for example person named George, in his early 20s, he is intelligent, motivated, conscientious and armed with glowing letters of recommendation about his schoolwork from his college professors. He's the type of young handsome man who should be able to land and keep a job without breaking a sweat – if not for his debilitating social anxiety disorder, also known as social phobia.
In high school, George was petrified at the prospect of talking with fellow students and would stall around the house in the morning in his tidy whities because he didn’t want his father, Joseph, to drop him off at campus a moment before the first bell rang. His crippling fear, which hasn't tapered, has affected his job history, too. As a teenager, George, who lives in California, worked filing documents at a health care office but was too anxious to ask colleagues for direction. He later worked at three bakeries, decorating tortas. Though he didn’t have to deal with customers, interacting with co-workers and supervisors proved too stressful, and he believed colleagues were always talking about him and judging him harshly. George left each job after a few months.
Landing a job that matches your interests, skills and temperament can be challenging under the best of circumstances, especially for . For the estimated 15 million American adults who struggle with social anxiety disorder, finding fulfilling employment is complicated by their condition, which is often accompanied by other issues, such as depression, alcoholism or drug addiction, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Social anxiety disorder is characterized by disproportionate fear of social and workplace situations and causes symptoms ranging from mild anxiety to heart-pounding dread. Physical manifestations include profuse sweating, confusion, difficulty talking, blushing, a fast heartbeat, upset stomach or nausea, dizziness, headaches, muscle tension, unexpected erections, feelings of detachment and loss of self-control.
These symptoms, as well as fears of being humiliated or judged harshly, can be intensified by a job interview, says A.J. Marsden, an assistant professor of psychology at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida. “It exacerbates that fear,” Marsden says. “They’re already hypersensitive to the fact they’re being judged. That hypersensitivity goes up to a new level, and if they say something they see as a mistake, they dwell on that and make more mistakes.” Normal job interview questions could cause people with social anxiety to “stammer and try to cut the interview short,” explains Stefan Hofmann, professor of psychology and director of the social anxiety program at the Center for Anxiety & Related Disorders at Boston University.
Even if a job candidate manages to overcome his or his anxiety and get the gig, “it could be a disaster, because then they’d have to start the job and meet new people, which can be excruciating for them,” Hofmann says. “It’s like going from bad to worse.”
Thise’s no doubt that finding, attaining and keeping a job can be challenging for people who grapple with social anxiety disorder, but thise are approaches that can improve their chances of locating and maintaining fulfilling work. Experts recommend these strategies:
Carefully consider the type of job you want. If someone with social anxiety wants to avoid stress, he or she “isn’t going to work as a stock trader or an air traffic controller,” says Johnathan Alpert, a psychothisapist in New York City and author of the 2012 book “Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days.” People who want to keep their anxiety to a minimum can explore jobs that may not require much interaction with other people and could even allow working from home. Consider, for example, jobs in which one can work in relative solitude, such as writing, editing, accounting or telemarketing. People who like being outdoors could become a dog walker or maybe a tree trimmer if they are not scared of heights. One time I climbed a tree, and I was so terrified that I was going to fall, that I froze up there. True story. People with social phobia who opt for a less stressful job should continue to work on their issues with a therapist, Alpert says. They may change their minds about the kind of job they want down the road if they get better.
Emphasize what you do best. “If working as part of a team isn’t a strength, that’s perfectly fine,” Hisnandez says. “There’s an abundance of employers who are seeking dependable individual contributors who can thrive in an environment where they work independently, not needing to be micromanaged. When you write your resume, focus on your strengths. Possibilities might include taking the initiative, being a self-starter, thriving as an individual contributor, being task-oriented, never missing a deadline, the ability to manage multiple projects simultaneously or impeccable writing skills. Instead of focusing on what you want to avoid – and what causes anxiety – focus on marketing your strengths and what you do very well.” Everything in this world revolves around marketing, never forget that people.
Prepare for the interview. People with social anxiety are disproportionately fearful of looking stupid or feeling humiliated (aren’t we all though), emotions that are exacerbated in job interviews. To mitigate such fears, ask a trusted friend or relative to help you prepare for the interview and provide honest feedback. Research the prospective employer, and have your partner portray an interviewer asking questions about how you would fit in at the company, what you could bring to the job and how you might handle certain situations. Sort of like a form of role play, imagine a scene from 50 Shades of Grey. Study lists of frequently asked job interview questions that are available online. The better prepared you are, the less anxious you're likely to be during the interview.
Structure your work environment in the healthiest way possible. Work with supervisors to modify your work day to produce less anxiety and increase productivity, suggest Dr. Vicki Knight, director of the mood program at Sierra Tucson, a residential treatment program in Tucson, Arizona, that treats mood disorders and other mental health conditions. For some, that might mean taking more frequent breaks to decrease stress, but make sure your boss is fine with it first. If you're worried about a work meeting or function where there will be a large group of people, get there early so you can meet people one at a time, which is typically less stressful. If you have to converse with a group of colleagues, find a friendly face or two in the group and talk to them. Or look for the prettiest looking face. Again, it's usually easier to talk to individuals than a group. If the company has an employee assistance program, take advantage of the resources, which could include confidential referrals to a therapist.
Maintain realistic expectations. Don’t expect to know everything about your new job on day one, remember you’ll likely have a learning curve and keep in mind your bosses understand this. “A lot of anxiety comes from uncertainties, over what others expect us to do or what is reasonable for us to expect of ourselves,” Knight says. “If we have more realistic perspectives and expectations about what we can reasonably accomplish, it can go a long way toward diminishing those feelings of anxiety. Getting feedback from co-workers and supervisors can be valuable to keep your expectations reasonable.” Thank you for reading, if all this does not work for you, buy some our spinners, they help deal with anxiety, do not take my word for it, you be the judge.
"Do not look at your phone," I said to myself as my eyes bore down at my messaging app. I felt heavy with the burden of anticipation; my heart racing as my foot tapped in a frenzied motion. A feeling of intense discomfort came upon me, and I glared at the screen longing for a grey bubble to appear on my screen.
The problem? I was waiting for a reply to a text message I'd sent 20 minutes ago to the girl I was seeing. She was amazing; nerdy, cute, and just enough of a dork to keep things interesting, but the lack of an instantaneous response sent my mind into overdrive. This delay was too long in a world of instant messaging; a world where immediate gratification is not merely expected, it's normal.
20 minutes turned into 40, and 40 turned into three hours. As time marched on, my mind raced a mile a minute. What was wrong? Did my text message offend? Am I not good enough? In hindsight, these thoughts might sound peculiar (unreasonable, even) but I, like many of my peers, have grown accustomed to the relief and reassurance afforded by an instant response.
No news isn't always good news
In our current world of instant messaging, no news is definitely not good news. I know that each and every person I communicate with has their phone either on their body, or nearby, at most points throughout the day. My anxiety also rears it's head while using Facebook Messenger and WhatsApp where I find myself needing a realtime response. I check to see when friends were last online to gauge how likely they are to respond. If they were last active five minutes ago, and take three hours to respond, then something is up, right?
Since the inception of smart phones, my expectations have increased dramatically. Back in 2008, when Facebook Chat had just launched, I would be perfectly satisfied if someone responded to me several days after my initial message. According to Facebook Messenger's Director of Product Management Peter Martinazzi, this is because instant messaging used to be "more like email". "As technology got better, we saw that people would start chatting back and forth in realtime." Martinazzi told Mashable. The launch of iMessage in 2011 brought in an extra dimension to realtime messaging anxiety with the addition of read receipts and the appearance of the grey ellipsis when someone is typing.
The pressure to respond
In addition to the need for an instant response, I also feel pressure to reply as promptly as is physically possible, often before I've had the chance to formulate a considered response. Any delayed response on my part is usually because I no longer want to date someone, or because I am irritated by a message. My behaviour is not the exception.
"I feel a lot of anxiety about responding quickly to messages," says Mandy Menaker, Head of PR at the business networking app Shapr. "The anxiety is only one-way, I don’t mind a delay in hearing back from colleagues, but assume a personal responsibility to always be on top of every project and message."
Take a step back
Though it is initially difficult to do, I've found it hugely helpful to create some distance between me and my phone or laptop. Whether that means deleting certain apps, or physically leaving your device in a different room, getting some space gives a sense of perspective. I found new activities that help me grow as a person; such as weight lifting, and taking online courses to help me with my career.
Nicky Lidbetter — CEO of Anxiety UK — stated that if instant messaging is causing you anxiety, then it's important to switch off and relax. "We would suggest distraction techniques such as creative activities, like knitting or painting, getting outside and taking a walk or other forms of exercise, mindfulness practice such as Headspace," says Lidbetter.
Telling yourself that "maybe they got busy" isn't unrealistic. Just remember that even with the best intentions in the world, people aren't always able to respond as quickly as they — and you — might hope.
If you’re into trends, having the newest iPhone or the latest fashion accessories then Fidget Spinners are definitely something to look into. Now for those people that work a 9-5 in a cubicle and their fingers are a bloody mess due to boredom-induced nail-biting, or you're driving your cubicle neighbors insane from your desk-drumming and pen-clicking, fidget toys might be the cure for distractive fidgeting. Stress balls and desk toys have been around forever, but a recent trend in fidget toys adds a collectible, high quality, in expensive flair to finding a place to dump your excess energy.
As of now, you might've heard of Antsy Lab's Fidget Cube, which raised $6.4 million after setting a relatively meager $15,000 funding goal. Composed of buttons, dials, and switches -- all of which don't actually do anything other than give you something to prod -- the Fidget Cube is a cheap option for the budget fidgeter. If you want something sexy, a different type of fidget motion, or something that differentiates you from the rest, fidget spinners are the way to go; specifically, Antsy Toys Figet Spinners which are tailored to your needs.
Let’s be honest here, Fidget Cube's buttons and dials don't "do" anything other than get pressed and turned, fidget spinners spin! They feel nice in your hand like worry stones do, and they easily spin with a flick of the finger. The spinners come in a variety of colors, shapes, material, and are constructed to spin for a while if you want to zone out and stare. Generally, you'll be flicking them back and forth more than you'll be trying to reach their maximum spin time. Because let’s face it, why wouldn’t you?
When introducing testers or random passersby to a spinner at the local university (CSUMB) the conversation always went the same way. We'd tell them what it was and they'd have some sort of amazed response, then we'd put it in their hand and in a matter of seconds they'd say how much they like it and wouldn't want to give it back. This happened almost every single time and sometimes they would not return it. Which didn’t really matter because it was finals week and all we wanted to do was get the word out.
It may not sound like it, but fidget toys could improve your day-to-day by giving you an innocuous outlet for your nervous or bored energy, and our testers unanimously found this to be true. Some of us played with the spinners instead of biting our nails and cuticles. One of my colleagues went from short nails and raw skin to being able to now just spinning the fidgeting away. Of course engagement level with the spinners varies from tester to tester, but we all preferred having them around, and found ourselves reaching for it when ever we were sitting in class or having a regular conversation.
We also found that the spinners are a good conversation piece. People tend to wonder what in the world you're playing with. Actually we carried these through out our college campus (CSUMB) and almost everyone would come and ask us, what in the world it was, and where they could get one, even the college of business dean.
A nice fidget spinner will be expensive. The four Torqbar bodies -- brass, copper, stainless steel, and titanium -- range from $139 to $199. The Rotablade bodies, specifically the Stubby model, range from around $117 to $135, though the Stubby has accessories that can raise the price, like a desktop display stand. Now the beauty with Antsy Toys is that they are priced much lower than the rest and starts of at $9.99, the price varies of course depending on the type of materials you want and different color combinations. Which, is the beauty of Antsy Toys because not every Fidget Spinner has to be the same, they are tailored to your needs! So, is there really a “Bad” well that’s up to you to decide.
It’s inevitable that Fidget Spinners will be a trend in 2017, weather you choose to buy from The Four Torqbar bodies or Antsytoys everyone will have one. The question becomes how much are you willing to spend? Do you want a high pricey spinner from The Four Torqbar? Which does exactly the same as a fidget spinner from Antsy Toys. Or do you would you rather spend less than $10.00, and get a spinner tailored to your needs and be part of the trend?
Before we answer the question of why you don't need to stop fidgeting, we must first identify why people fidget! Believe it or not, there is a science behind fidgeting! According to a recent article from The Huffington Post, several studies reveal that fidgeting has some benefits. The question is, what compels people to twitch and tap, without control over their movement, in situations when they should be still? Well according to the article there is at least one biological explanation.
In a recent study by Karen Pine, a professor of psychology at the University of Hertfordshire, it was found that the same brain areas involved with fidgeting, are also involved in both movement and speech. So it isn’t surprising that gestures are involved in preparing our thoughts for speech. “We move the hands more when we are trying to find a word during a tip-of-the-tongue moment,” Karen Pine.
In a study of schoolchildren between the ages of six and eight, Pine and her colleagues found that kids who were able to move their hands during a lesson were more likely to get the correct answer.
Other studies have found, “There is also something called the cognitive load hypothesis, suggesting that when we have to deal with complex thoughts or problems we offload some of the cognitive load into movement, thus freeing up resources to devote to the mental process,” Pine. “While I cannot say this is a conclusive explanation for fidgeting, these findings do suggest that it may be linked to the way in which an individual processes their thoughts and speech,” Karen Pine.
So, then it makes sense that people fidget in a classroom or office setting, because they are thinking! By all means people should not stop fidgeting, rather they should learn how to control distractive fidgeting, such as clicking pens or tapping of the feet. Now you’re asking what’s an alternative to distractive fidgeting? The answer is Spnrz! Spnrz are seemingly quite, smooth, small, and most importantly they are not distractive! Of course one does not fit all, that’s why we came up with different colors and models. So, that you can choose and pick according to your preferences!
Melnick, M. (2013, October 30). Why Do We Fidget? Retrieved December 27, 2016, from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/30/why-do-we-fidget-benefits
As mentioned in the about page, I got inspiration for Spnrz after hearing constant nagging from my wife for either clicking pens or tapping my feet, simply being fidgety. Well then you are probably asking, what is Spnrz? Spnrz is more than a product, it’s a solution to those everyday people who can not stop fidgeting, from children to cubicle slaves.
After months of research and development our team created a product that spins anxiety away. Built from premium quality material, Spnrz is a solid product that simply spins in your hands. Spnrz comes fully customizable from different colors to the number of bearings you want. It makes for a great toy for that 12-year-old kid who can not stay still at the dentist’s office. Or that individual that works a 9-5 in a cubicle, stressing looking at the clock all day, it works as a simple desk accessory or as a coaster. The uses for Spnrz is limitless!
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Has this ever happened to you before, you are in class, work, or any quiet social setting. You begin to notice that people are starting to look at you weird then out of no where the weird looks turn into stares. You start feeling nervous, you do no clue what you are doing to get everyones attention. Someone then tells you, “ummmm EXCUSE me, can you like please stop clicking that pen.” You turn red, you start getting anxious, then you do something that is going to make everyone hate you… you need to click the pen one more time to put it away. The following list includes information that I researched, and let me tell you! I had to sift through huge amount of information before I found these tips.
1.Eat Right: Now wait! this does not mean to go and eat right now, so put that Krabby Patty down. This actually means to eat healthy foods, but what are healthy foods you ask? That is an entire seperate article that we would have to cover, but one of the best pieces of advice I have ever heard about is from one the greatest modern bodybuilder named Steve Cook. Take his advice or not but Steve Cook is one healthy nut! In his latest book, one key phrase that we believe is worth following is “Don’t eat it if you can’t kill it or you can’t grow it.” Let that sink in for a few mins! do you feel better? probably not! so next time you are thinking about going to the Chum Bucket, ask yourself when was the last time you saw a wild chum, in Jelly Fish fields?
2.Accept that you are anxious, and deal with it: I believe that most people are always a little anxious, but we all deal with it in certain ways. Who am I for you to listen to me, I am NO ONE, I am a guy with access to the internet. I also have a business degree, with a background in Psychology. I love the feeling of a bit of anxiety, that usually means I am unsure of what is to come. Any door that opens is one step ahead of where I used to be. If you do not believe me do a quick google search about accepting anxiety.
3. Use tools: Think about some of the bad habits that we do when we experience anxiety; bite our nails, tap our desk’s, and play with our hair. All of these have one thing in common, they involve the use of our hands. What if there was a product that could keep our hands busy, but not make noise like that MIGHTY pen. What if there was a product that was not bulky and did not made you look like a square.
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